Proverbs 16:18 & 19
“Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall. It is better to be of a lowly spirit with the poor than to divide the spoil with the proud.”
If you are married, you understand that pride does go before destruction! It is too easy to become prideful when you are in an argument with your spouse. It can become almost second nature to believe the lie that you deserve better, you are entitled to better, or you simply are better. Don’t be misled, this kind of thinking is directly from the enemy, and he will undoubtedly feed off of it to create as much destruction as he can. Child of God, do not let the enemy into your mind or your marriage that way! Proverbs 16:32 says, “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” Learn to rule your spirit, turn away from pride and self-importance, and make sure your heart is in a condition of complete obedience to the Lord. Don’t give the enemy a footing in something that he has no business entering.
Proverbs says that, “It is better to be of a lowly spirit with the poor than to divide the spoil with the proud.” The Lord would rather you have a lowly spirit and little riches than a prideful spirit and many riches, because He promises a great inheritance for the meek (Matthew 5:5). Having a quiet and gentle spirit is very valuable to the Lord, because it is proof that you have died to your selfish nature in light of His sacrifice for you. And that is the key. Although a humble spirit does not come naturally for us, it can be developed through the constant renewal of our minds back to His death that let us live. The truth is, we will stop thinking so highly of ourselves when we realize that He is higher than us all. We will not boast in anything except His perfect love when we realize that it cannot be matched. We will not lean on our greatest qualities when we realize that one breath from Him holds infinitely more power than anything we could ever accomplish. When we sink into the fact that Jesus-the man who had every reason to be full of pride-had none at all, but in complete humility laid His perfect life down for us, our spirits will be changed.